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Saturday, January 15, 2011

Mean Girls:Why Can't We All Just Get Along?

It seems since time eternal women have competed with each other over everything from men to jobs, looks and clothes.

You can often feel it when you enter a room. The not-so-subtle once-over that women give each other as they assess how they compare to each other. Is this women prettier? Thinner? More popular? Have better clothes? A better life per chance?

Men compete too, but it's never quite as personal. Maybe it's years spent in sports (not that women don't play sports too) that teaches men to just deal with their anger, get it out and move on.

Women on the other hand are schooled to be nice. Nice girls don't say how they feel, no, they tell their friends who then tell everyone else until it finally gets back to you.

Sadly, the behavior learned in the bathrooms of middle schools and plotted at slumber parties gets ingrained in some, and those mean girls grow up to be mean women. Women who don't think they can get ahead or feel good about themselves if there is someone who they perceive as having more than them. The thing is, no one has it all, not even Gywneth Paltrow.

I happen to be someone who believes the universe is infinitely abundant. One person's success does not take away from mine. If you win the lottery it doesn't mean I can't too. If you meet the love of your life it shows me that good things can happen.

My wish is that women will stop looking at each other as threats and embrace each other as supporters of each others' dreams. Imagine how far we could all get if we spent the energy we waste tearing someone else down and put it toward building ourselves and each other up. The possibilities are endless.

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